Kids need to learn how to wait for things, and parents should teach this lesson early. It will pay off when they become adults.
Start by being honest about what’s going on.
If you’re having trouble getting through to your child, start by being honest about what you’re feeling. You might say something like “I’m really frustrated right now because I’ve been trying to do X, Y, and Z, and I just haven’t gotten anywhere.” This shows your kid that you’re not hiding anything, and it gives them an opportunity to help you figure out what needs to happen next.
Don’t try to control them.
It’s easy to feel frustrated when you’re dealing with a difficult child. But instead of trying to force your child into doing things your way, try to understand where he or she is coming from. Instead of telling your child to stop playing with his toys, ask him why he wants to play with those toys. Ask questions like “Why do you think you need to play with these toys?” or “What makes you happy when you play with these toys?” By asking questions like these, you give your child a chance to explain himself or herself. And if you still don’t understand, then you can talk to your child’s teacher or pediatrician.
Let them know they have choices.
If you’ve ever tried to teach patience to a kid, you know how frustrating it can be. You might even find yourself yelling at your child because you just can’t stand it anymore! But there’s a better way to deal with children who act out. Try letting them know that you understand what they’re going through. Tell them that you’re not mad at them and that you just want them to calm down so you can help them figure out what’s bothering them. Then, let them know that you’d love to help them solve whatever problem they’re having. This will show them that you care about them and that you’re willing to listen to them.
Give them space.
It’s easy to feel frustrated when your kids won’t do something as simple as brushing their teeth. But try giving them some space instead of getting angry. Let them know that you understand why they’re acting up and that you’re trying to help them. They’ll appreciate your understanding, and hopefully, they’ll start behaving more appropriately.
If you’ve ever tried to teach your child how to behave, you know that setting limits is key. You need to set clear expectations for what’s acceptable behaviour, and then stick to those rules. This will make your children more likely to follow through with the tasks at hand.
In order to be your best self, you also need to make some time for yourself. Self-care plays a big role in your patience level. A great way to make sure you are doing well is to get into the habit of checking in with yourself. If you’re not sure how to go about this step, do not worry we have your back. Grab this free daily check-in created by our mom Sara Wilson.
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